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Every daily update causes more personal pain

Jim and Alexis Bellino divorceIf you have never been well-known enough to receive good and bad coverage from the media, consider yourself blessed. Because when the bad reviews start coming your way, it creates an avalanche of anguish for you, your children, and that inner core of your soul that is so vulnerable to hatred and the malignancy thrown at you from some of the most hateful people you will ever have the misfortune of knowing.

I do not want to get into the specifics of the precise stories that have hurt me, because I do not wish to lend any misguided or false credence to the coverage of myself or my family. Also, I am doing everything in my power to guard against any further malicious intrusions into my privacy and the privacy of my family. With that said, anyone who has been reading the news about me and my impending divorce to Alexis Bellino will probably know just what I am talking about.

Stories of this nature are difficult, painful, and if I’m being honest, they are numbing to the soul, which is a part of the self that should always be looking for the glory and the good in all things. My soul is suffering. I am in pain. I am in the midst of a divorce that involves 13 years of marriage and three innocent children. Call me naive, but I would have thought that these details would matter—but on the other hand, part of me knew this would get ugly—because that’s what most people want in their juicy gossip, especially when it comes to the kind of dish served up by reality TV.

Every daily update causes more personal pain for me, and there’s only so much I can do to shield my children, whose names have been brought up as part of this “news” story. Beyond this, all of the latest stories I see online are taking their toll on my physical and mental health.

I have been forced to seek professional help for physical and psychological ailments I’ve been experiencing since being dragged through the mud by Tamra and Shannon. The repercussions of this behavior from them and the coverage that it gets are literally harming every part of me.

Beyond this, my businesses have suffered, which has created hardship for myself, Alexis, and my children. I am, after all, a father who happens to own businesses, not an entrepreneur who happens to have children.

I wish I could close this blog post by saying something pithy or wise, something smart or insightful. But the truth is, I am working hard not to feel broken. I am at the mercy of people who do not know the real me, and that’s a scary and dangerous place to be. For those reading this that know what it’s like, forgive me for ever not taking it seriously. For those who have no idea what it’s like to be in the crosshairs of the harshest media outlets out there, just understand: I was marked as the “bad guy” from day one, so the fact that it’s gotten worse is kind of sadly miraculous.

I am doing the best I can with all of this—and all of this is a lot more than meets the eye.

Jim Bellino

I’m moving on—and so should everyone else

Jim Bellino with kids


In case you have been living under a rock, by now you have probably heard that Alexis and I are in the process of getting divorced. The truth is, we simply grew apart. We decided to divorce because it was the best decision for us, our future, and our children, who remain the key focus of both of our lives.

For those who are actually here to support me and my family, I thank you, and I am happy to report that the kids are adjusting well and doing great considering the transition that’s taking place. What I am most grateful for is that my children are doing well and in fact, we had a wonderful time over the 4th of July holiday.

My most important job in life is being a father—nothing will ever stop me from making my kids my number one priority—and that includes the media circus. I am going to take the high road and not take any cheap shots. I am moving on—and so should everyone else!

Alexis and Jim Bellino Divorce Statement

It is with heavy hearts that we (Alexis and Jim Bellino) inform the public of our mutual decision to end our marriage—but it’s important to us that you know we made this choice together, with love, and as the best decision for our children’s future.

Alexis and I hold one another in the highest regard as spouses, and especially as parents. We have agreed on 50/50 custody of the children, and we ask that you respect our privacy by not theorizing about the reasons for our divorce.
In recent days and weeks, there has been a lot of negative discussion about our marriage and why it is ending. Outside of the news of our decision to part ways, there is nothing provocative, alluring, or sordid about the dissolution of our marriage. Quite to the contrary, we strongly support each other just as we have since the beginning of our relationship.
Our marriage was a good one, but we were never perfect people or spouses—no one is, and in this respect, we were a lot like millions of other married people. And, just like millions of other married people, we simply grew apart over time—there is no ill will or bad blood between us—and maybe that’s why absurd rumors about our marriage and future together began when we filed for divorce.
We ultimately want you to feel happy for us, respect our privacy during this difficult time, and pray for our mutual benefit as we weather this storm. To the fans who have supported us since the beginning, we’re grateful for how you cheer us on—we ask that you continue to cheer as our lives and the lives of our children change and ultimately improve as a result of this difficult decision.