Every daily update causes more personal pain

Every daily update causes more personal pain

If you have never been well-known enough to receive good and bad coverage from the media, consider yourself blessed. Because when the bad reviews start coming your way, it creates an avalanche of anguish for you, your children, and that inner core of your soul that is so vulnerable to hatred and the malignancy thrown at you from some of the most hateful people you will ever have the misfortune of knowing.

I do not want to get into the specifics of the precise stories that have hurt me, because I do not wish to lend any misguided or false credence to the coverage of myself or my family. Also, I am doing everything in my power to guard against any further malicious intrusions into my privacy and the privacy of my family. With that said, anyone who has been reading the news about me and my impending divorce to Alexis Bellino will probably know just what I am talking about.

Stories of this nature are difficult, painful, and if I’m being honest, they are numbing to the soul, which is a part of the self that should always be looking for the glory and the good in all things. My soul is suffering. I am in pain. I am in the midst of a divorce that involves 13 years of marriage and three innocent children. Call me naive, but I would have thought that these details would matter—but on the other hand, part of me knew this would get ugly—because that’s what most people want in their juicy gossip, especially when it comes to the kind of dish served up by reality TV.

Every daily update causes more personal pain for me, and there’s only so much I can do to shield my children, whose names have been brought up as part of this “news” story. Beyond this, all of the latest stories I see online are taking their toll on my physical and mental health.

I have been forced to seek professional help for physical and psychological ailments I’ve been experiencing since being dragged through the mud by Tamra and Shannon. The repercussions of this behavior from them and the coverage that it gets are literally harming every part of me.

Beyond this, my businesses have suffered, which has created hardship for myself, Alexis, and my children. I am, after all, a father who happens to own businesses, not an entrepreneur who happens to have children.

I wish I could close this blog post by saying something pithy or wise, something smart or insightful. But the truth is, I am working hard not to feel broken. I am at the mercy of people who do not know the real me, and that’s a scary and dangerous place to be. For those reading this that know what it’s like, forgive me for ever not taking it seriously. For those who have no idea what it’s like to be in the crosshairs of the harshest media outlets out there, just understand: I was marked as the “bad guy” from day one, so the fact that it’s gotten worse is kind of sadly miraculous.

I am doing the best I can with all of this—and all of this is a lot more than meets the eye.

Jim Bellino

14 Replies to “Every daily update causes more personal pain”

  1. I am a huge fan of Alex, but when you were married, you were a package deal–so I was stuck being a fan of yours as well. 🙂 This is another chapter of both of your lives and in order to have a positive journey, you must remain peaceful and civil. I hope you stay friends, many people divorce and sometimes it’s just time to move on. It’s okay, you’re human. I wish you the best, Jim. You have gorgeous children! Cheers, to a new chapter!

  2. Mr Bellino…
    I must say that I was not the biggest fan of either you nor Alexis, HOWEVER, I do whole heartedly agree that you got a harsh edit on Bravo to an extent and I can only fathom how frustrating that could be for you and all of your friends and family. I want you to know that even as you both chose to be displayed on ‘reality TV’, still marriage is sacred and what ever arrangements or dynamic that was between you and your wife should have always remained so. Although I do believe I have the right to go on reddit and share my opinion I do not believe that my opinion is the”word of God” for lack of a better term, nor do I believe I’m right. What worked for you both and your beautiful children is completely and totally yours and yours alone. I wish both you and Alexis, and most importantly your children the best of luck in all aspects of life. I may not agree with everything you do or say but again, I dont recall you placing blame or judgement on my divorce, my children, my ex and so on. Divorce for anyone is always truly painful, and due to your candor within this blog I will choose to no longer make assumptions, and I will keep negative judgements to myself as I realize some day your children may be reading them. You both walked away from the public eye long ago, and I believe everyone should respect your choice to do so.
    And as far as Tamra goes, I was a fan that is until she made remarks about Lydia’s husband needing to come out of the closet, THE VERY THING SHE HATED VICKI FOR. It is disgusting how hypocritical and insensitive she is being at this time. May you and Alexis find solace and healing soon. Best wishes.
    -KMama Monster from NJ

    1. I also think Tamra is a Nasty person and is out to hurt people. and Shannon should know better. I’ve been through divorce. Good luck with your family. -Sasha from England x

  3. Hang in there Jim. You are a good dude and it’s apparent you have a kind heart. We have all made our mistakes and we all have regrets. I feel your pain brother. I am going through a divorce myself. Do me a favor and just take it one day at a time and try to focus on those positive things around you. Stay close to those loyal friends and try to laugh as much as you can everyday. Cry when necessary it keep moving forward and keep smiling. We will make it through and we will feel whole and strong again. God bless you my friend.

  4. Jim,

    It’s been a while, but I wanted you to know that Denise and I are standing with you during this difficult time. While I can’t imagine what you are going through, I do know what it feels like experience a deep loss.

    We believe in you, Jim.

    Love and prayers,

    Brad and Denise Howard

  5. I hope you win your lawsuit against Tamra and Shannon. Maybe then they will have learned to butt out of other family’s business. They pretend to protect their own families then destroy another’s. They really need to take that Tamera off TV period, she is trash. And as for Shannon, well, she just doesn’t seem too bright.

  6. Dear Jim,
    I’m sorry that you’re going through such a difficult time. Remember to stand straight up when you rise because we all don’t want to see that crown hanging lopsided.

  7. Sounds like you found a positive way to handle the negative media ? not addressing or spreading negativity shows how pure your soul and spirit are., I’m rooting for you ??

  8. It will get easier for you I also think it’s been so nasty of that woman Shannon to say all those things she is a very spiteful woman also has been through divorce she should know better also tamra should know better with all her dirty washing on spin the nose I think these women are very very depressed and their own lives to make judgement on something they don’t even know

  9. I just wanted to say, you should consider writing a book. I love the way you express yourself here! Seriously! And don’t forget that few, if anyone, takes Tamara or Shannon’s remarks as anything more than it is. In one ear and out the other.
    The world is changing. And God’s perfect justice cannot come soon enough. Hope you and the kids are at peace.

  10. I logged in hoping to hear your side of things… I think Alexis plays a part and plays the part of the victim way to much… it’s always everyone
    else. Now she is “starting a new beginning on life” but magically already has a boyfriend in the picture…. Don’t think for one minute Jim you’re the “hated guy” by us all. I think those that give you a bad name aren’t smart enough to see that was what Bravo cut & diced video to make you look like. They had you play a villain. Tamera, Shannon, will come around and will see the light and so will the others… some just move at s much slower pace. Keep your head up true love is out there for you and enjoy your time with your kids! They grow up way to fast so enjoy them! Just keep being you! ❤️